||[Apr. 30th, 2008|02:02 pm]
susandennis posted an entry talking about how her mother told her "if you never married, you'd never have anyone to tell you that your slip was showing." In guy terms, I'd change the metaphor to no one telling me my fly's open.Yesterday, |
Originally, that was one of the purposes of this journal. Way back when ... I don't remember but it had to be years ago, I posted some stuff talking about feedback. That's kinda what I was trying to get at back then. Since then I basically came to the conclusion that I'm just not the type of person that attracts many friends. That has spilled over in this journal.
I used to post some things in hopes to get feedback and see if my fly was open so to speak. Those posts never got any comments. So I figure if I mess up too much, something eventually will happen and if my metaphoric fly is open, ... ah, I guess I just have to let things hang out and take the unnoticed whispers and pointing behind my back.
It's funny. I have been thinking about the above before susandennis posted her entry yesterday. Maybe not using the terms above in my head, but what I was mulling over does boil down to wanting more people to check if the zipper of my life is down and things are showing that shouldn't be showing. Then after I lost someone on my friends list recently, I started giving more serious thought to joining either facebook or myspace for more interaction with others.
The problem is, as I know, me. I still might join one or more of those "social networks" as I've heard them called. However, never having been a social being, my odds of functioning well on one of those sites ... well, I'd just be back to what I was doing with those old lj entries that never got any comments.
...the cave is open, but the beast is asleep.
I don't know what to tell you. I prefer actual interaction vs. virtual interaction myself. Get out and do something rather than pretend to do it. Take the dog for a walk for the enjoyment of it. Go to where other dog walkers go. What is the swing dance group up to these days? Are there sci-fi discussion groups at the library/bookstore? No? START ONE! You gotta make the effort.
ok, take two on this entry.
First of all, sorry about my deleted first reaction to your post. I read some things between the lines that might not have been there.
As for the swing dance group, it broke up when Dad was still alive and hasn't existed in years. I don't have the time and especially the energy to start something in real life.
I said I know the problem lies with me. Doesn't that imply that if the problem is to be fixed I'm the one who would need to make the effort?
And I do see the irony in my initially seeing this comment as an attack rather than constrictive criticism especially given the topic. <-- again a problem I need to fix (i.e. something I should put effort into doing).
2008-05-01 09:48 pm (UTC)
Re: Excuse me...
I wish I had had the sense to delete the email that contained that entry.
I am sorry about it, Charm. I misread your message, after a rather trying day with Mom. Sometimes, I wish lj wouldn't automatically email those messages out.
Ah, I'm a fool.
LJ can be fickle. Very often people read, but don't comment.
I think "virtual interaction" is a great way to meet people and socialize. I don't particularly enjoy interacting with strangers IRL, so after uprooting and moving from Philly to KY, LJ was a great place for me to filter through the strangers, to find people that I like. I've made some dear friends and met the love of my life on here. =)
I think you need to broaden your circle of friends. Howsabout I pimp you out on my LJ? Feel like adding a few new friends?
I do think the virtual interactions I've had over the years have kept me from going even more crazy than I am now.
I know you met Kurt here on lj. I was very happy when you posted the picture of the ring he gave you. :)
It wasn't lj, but another internet place that I met H actually. So I do know how one can meet their love through the internet.
As for "pimping me out," the last time someone on my lj friends list tried it (behind my back), I sabotaged the effort by telling the person I was being pimped to that my journal wasn't worth reading.
Although, I agree that I do need to expand my circle of friends.
Hey there and first of all, thank you for adding me back. :)
As to your post, I tend to think all personal changes start with becoming aware of ones own shortcomings (not really the word I was looking for, but anyway) so in that respect I think you are on the right track and you will end up making changes for the better.
By the way, I think it never hurts to vent your feelings every now and then about when people don't comment on posts which are important to you, but like issabellablue
said, LJ can be fickle sometimes.
I actually think it's got something to do with the asynchronous nature of LJ where people will sometimes read an entry and think they ought to comment and then move on and forget later on, simply because the entry has shifted down or even off of their friends pages.
I don't know really. I've not been commenting a whole lot myself lately, but I will read your entries and try to comment whenever I can.
You're welcome about adding you back.
I'm not the best at venting my feelings. I always worry that I'll cross the line between venting and throwing a pity party for myself.
I'm not the best at commenting myself, although, I do try.
2008-05-03 07:36 am (UTC)
Re: Excuse me...
I wouldn't worry about that line. It's your journal so venting and/or throwing pity parties is allowed.
Whoa, not sure how the subject line from the other post got on my reply to you.
That happens when you first click on a reply to link from a thread and then click on another one. The comment window shifts but the content of the box and the subject stays in there.