||[Aug. 17th, 2004|09:24 am]
The following is a rant I sent to an email group I belong to (with some minor editing -- Removing A's name and replacing it with "A," and deleting a reference to the town where the local Border's is located, and maybe a few minor grammar corrections). I am putting it here because ... well to take a metaphor I used below, I think the shotgun blast of my words could be applied in a lot of situations, not just for the disgruntled complainer who inspired me to write it. I think you can guess the complainer's points from what I wrote.|
First the disclaimer that I am about to be much more blunt than I usually am
with my words. Also, while this was inspired by the other letters in this
thread this is directed at no one in particular. If you get caught in the
buckshot have enough sense to duck because I wasn't really aiming at you.
Now my response:
I learned from childhood onward that being ignored is easy. Watch me at a
munch, I will sit in some obscure place; farthest from the fire, in a lone
section of garage, at the end of the table at the restruant. Yet if I want
attention I can make my voice heard by anyone there I want. Getting
attention is not a passive thing that just happens. You make it happen for
Another thing I learned in my life, just as there are people who you simply
don't like, there will be people who don't like you. There are cliques in any
group. People who naturally gravitate toward each other, and away from
Now, I am about to say the most controversial thing I can say in this group.
Control of anything other than yourself is an illusion. I joined this group
because I like that illusion, but only in my fantasies do I believe it.
This is A's group. If I suggested something like holding that book club thing at
the local branch of Border's Books (upon reflection not one of my best
suggestions, but one of the few suggestions I *did* make), and it's turned
down, as it was, the only control I had of that situation was making the
Yes, I expect to be heard when I have something to say. And likewise everyone
here has the right to expect me to listen to anything they have to say.
However, the final decision as to what happens isn't mine to make in this
As much as I don't like saying this, no one here even has to like me. That is
another thing out of my control. I do hope that I can make several friends
here, but it is just a hope and nothing more.