Afterward though I start getting second thoughts about what I said and did sometimes. I worry that my words or actions were taken the wrong way and I have unintentionally insulted, hurt, or simply made a bad impression. Sometimes I go so far as to give an inappropriate and unnecessary apology when no offense was taken and no apology was needed.
That happened just recently. I made my first comment in someone's journal here. Had second thoughts about how the comment would be received and deleted it.
I have some personal rules I try to live under. Two of them I violate when I start this obbsive/compolsive behavior described above. Rule 6 Be self-confident! Second guessing myself isn't a sign of self-confidence. Rule 3 Satori. A Japanese word for "living in the now." Obsessing about past actions certainly violates that too.
As I said in my first post, I'm changing. I'm in a transition phase. When I was younger I wanted to "know myself." Now that I'm older and simply want to "be myself" and don't care about "knowing myself," I've got more knowledge of me and less of the essence. Ironic.