||[Jun. 22nd, 2003|10:46 pm]
A few weeks ago I came across the phrase "touch starved" and it stuck in my head. Perhaps because I'm a bit touch starved myself. I made a mental note to write about it here, but one thing lead to another, and well I'm just getting around to it now.|
The phrase was used for a character in a story I was reading. How this character had been without physical contact for so long that he couldn't get enough when he got the opportunity. I'm not talking anything sexual here just skin next to skin.
I just did a google search on the phrase. The first listing was an "adult site," but it was an editorial article about the editor of that website feeling afraid to touch others in the new location she just moved to and how others deal with the issue; calling friends, reading letters, reading others' online journals, email, and internet chat. That article ends with saying the person hopes the stories on that site touch the heart and mind as well as arouse.
The rest of the sites listed on that first page were massage, medical, and one spiritual site. It's interesting. I half-way expected I would be weeding out a ton of adult sites to get to more serious information, but the one adult site lead to a simple editorial.
I read some of the other web pages, and I'm not going to rewrite one of those articles on the benefits of simply being touched. You can look them up yourself if interested. I do think it's interesting that the first thing listed mentioned reading on-line journals as a substitute for "touching" (and interesting that it was a sex webzine site too).
The funniest thing about all this is that while I want to write about the phrase "touch starved" and doing that google search for inspiration I still don't know what I want to say about it.
Being "touch starved" is probably symptomatic of a general sensory deprivation.
I suggest, and this is only a suggestion, that you make a habit of noticing the unique taste, touch, smell, sight, and taste of at least one thing every day. Notice the brilliant green of the grass under the noonday sun, the bite of unsweetened dark chocolate, the roughness of sandpaper, the cry of birds, the smell of fresh bread.
2003-06-23 05:26 pm (UTC)
Re: Sensory deprivation
Actually, if you are referring to focusing on the present moment the usual exercise I hear for that is eating a raisin and concentrating on everything from the feeling of the raisin in your fingers, how you move your arm to place it in your mouth, the taste of the raisin as you slowly chew, ...
Although I think that exercise is almost cliche, but yes, I do try to stay in the present moment and notice all that is happening around me as well as my reactions to those events. My battle cry when I notice my mind wandering somewhere other then where it should and getting back in touch with my surroundings is "satori." I get some strange looks if I snap out of a daydream saying that with others around sometimes.
However, I wasn't really referring to that kind of thing. I meant physical touch, and lack of it affecting one. I especially found this webpage, http://members.lycos.co.uk/bluelotusrising/newpage3.html
interesting (although that frame on the right was a little annoying).